I Miss Him

I Miss him very much; I talk with Jay Steineckert, he said they would be days like this. He told me some days I would feel good then other days out of the blues I would be feeling down and lonely and crying. Well Friday night was not a very good night. My little grandson Tanner would not settle down, so I held him till he went to sleep, and then put down by his dad with his bottle, then in a few seconds he was in my room crying so I let him get up in my bed and sleep with me. Then when he woke up he was screaming so I told Michael to come get him. He still would not stop screaming and I don't when he stop cause i went back to sleep. And when Elise came home later from work I was in my bed crying, I was hurting so bad. She thought it was my back and I told you know that it was not my back. That it was my chest, then she ask me if I took one of the pills the Doctor gave and I had not so I got up and took one then I went in the living room and sat with for a while tell I calmed down then I went back to bed. I loved Merrill so much and I am going to miss a lot. I love all of you family and friends.
Love Iris

Obituary

Merrill Asay Despain (May 4, 1939 - August 27, 2008)
Merrill Asay Despain passed away Wednesday, August 27, 2008 at his home in Mapleton at the age of 69. He was born May 4, 1939 in Byron, Wyoming to William Quayle and Mary Asay Despain. He married Gertrude Venene Schnebly in Mesa, Arizona Temple on April 25, 1964. Together they had seven children and were later divorced. He married Iris Ann Robinson in the Provo Temple on January 16, 1990.
Merrill served in the National Guard from 1957-1961. He was an active member of the LDS Church and served a mission to the central states. He loved the outdoors, especially fishing, camping and hunting. He also enjoyed reading, poetry, music and playing the guitar.
He is survived by his wife, Iris; children: Licia Kim, Bill Despain, Neil Despain, Anna Despain and Joy Kunzler; stepchildren: Brian Prince, Michael Prince, Jay Lynn Prince and Karl Prince; 27 grandchildren; and 9 brothers and sisters. He was preceded in death by two sons, David and Benjamin Despain, and one granddaughter, Shyann Prince.
Funeral services will be held Tuesday, September 2, 2008 at 11 a.m. in the Mapleton 8th Ward LDS Chapel at 1215 N. 1000 W. in Mapleton. There will be a viewing held Monday evening from 6 to 8 p.m. at Wheeler Mortuary, 211 E. 200 S. in Springville and Tuesday at the church one hour prior to the service. Interment will be in the Springville Evergreen Cemetery.

Merrill's Funeral

The Funeral will be Tuesday at 11:00 Am and hour prior to services. At Mapleton 8th ward at 1215 N. 1000 W. Mapleton. And a viewing on Monday evening 6 to 8 PM , at the Wheeler Mortuary 211 E. 200 S. Springville. Interment will be in the the Springville Evergreen Cemetery. Thank everyone for your support. Love Iris

Merrill

This evening the family in the area all came over and spent some time with Merrill. He passed away peacefully early this morning. Details will follow for the funeral and viewing. We will all miss him.

Merrill, We had some bad news:

Hello everyone, Merrill's not doing very well, this morning he stared to throw up. Last night I couldn't get him to swallow his medicine. The hospice nurse came out this morning, and check him out he was not responding. So she look at me and said I think I need too tell you that I think it is sooner then we think it was going to be. Maybe two weeks or less. She talk to Neil this morning for me. I called my bishop and told him what she said. I called my doctor while she was here, and I broke down, so she talk to my doctors nurse and they gave me some (diazepam) gen. for Valium. Right now Merrill is out of it and she got them to send some medicine to give him to keep him comfortable. I want you all to know that we love you very much.
LOVE IRIS AND MERRILL

Merrill fell

Merrill, felled Sunday morning, he didn't break any bones but pulled some tendence, the hospice nurse Dana, wrap his knee up. John and Sandra, came down Monday and came over that night for awhile. John, read some stories out of a book he brought with them, and brought Merrill some treats. Donna , been over to see him twice. I think he enjoyed their company, I did. The hospice people are coming over tonight to talk with me and the kids to see if they can help more and maybe give me a break from Merrill, too. And other things. I wish some of you were closer by so you could see Merrill. We love you all.
Iris and Merrill

This Week

Hi everyone this week Merrill's been in bed almost all day except to change bedding. He just has not had very much strength. They started him on a new pain pill this week too to help with the pain he's been having. If there is any change I will let you know later. We love you all very much.
LOVE IRIS AND MERRILL

Merrill doing:

Hi everyone Merrill has not feeling very well today. We like the hospice people. The Chaplan came by and we had a nice visit with him. He asked Merrill if would be OK to come back again and Merrill said yes. He's been with them for ten years. And said he felt very welcome today even though we did not know him Merrill said I know you. Our little grandson Tanner wasn't sure about him at first then he looked at the picture of Jesus on the wall then looked at him and stared to say things in his own way. I think he thought it was the same person on the wall, but that is OK it was intersting to hear him talk. We want you all to know that we love you very much.
Love Iris and Merrill

-A Big Decision

A big decision we are not going to do chemo any more. We are going to get Hospice. We have talk to Doctor Wylie today, and will talk to Doctor Rich, Friday. Hospice will come out tomorrow to talk with us, The doctor at the hospital said this isn't doing Merrill any good going into the hospital every time his blood pressure is up high because this time it cause some problems with is heart, and they had to give him some lastix to get the water fruid down away from his heart cause he gain about 20 pounds in one week, since he seen the doctor last. That way Merrill and I can have some Quality time together. We love you all and thank you for your support.
LOVE IRIS AND MERRILL
P.S. We have talk to Neil about this too. We hope every body understands.

Merrrill's in the hospital

Hi everyone Merrill went to have chemo Thursday and ended up in the emergency room, and they admitted him to the hospital. He is in room 363, at Utah Valley. His blood pressure was 215 and his heart rate went up to 152 and down into the 60's. He had a headache and they gave him something for it, so when we got ready to go they were helping me get him in the car and he got very sick so they decide to take him back in to the emergency room. Today he was saying his chest was hurting and he started to sweat, so they did a ekg. I will tell later when he comes home.
Love Iris and Merrill